My Negotiation Skills Peak At Certain Times of the Month

An end-of-summer negotiation at my house went something like this:

Sadie: Mommy, can I have a cookie?

Me: You can have a cookie after dinner.

Sadie: Why?

Me: Why what?

Sadie: Why do I have to wait until dinner?

Me: Because if you eat a cookie, you won’t eat as much dinner.  It’s my job to be sure you keep things in balance.  Cookies come after dinner. (Note: In this conversation the “cookie” refers to an organic wafer that is composed of quinoa, oats and raisins. FN 1)

Sadie: Why can’t I have a cookie right now?

Me: Have you had dinner?

Sadie: No.

Me: Well, once you have had dinner, you can have that cookie you so desperately want.

Sadie: What about a popsicle? Can I have that now?

Me: No. You can have either a popsicle or a cookie after dinner.

AHHHHHH. HELP ME! I just wanted a sweet treat. Why is she talking about ovulation? What IS ovulation?

AHHHHHH. HELP ME! I just wanted a sweet treat. Why is she talking about ovulation? What IS ovulation?

Sadie: Why can’t I have a popsicle right now? (Note: The “popsicle” refers to an organic fruit smoothie that I froze and put into ice trays. FN 2)

Me: Really? Are we doing this right now?  You. Can. Have. A. Sweet. After. Dinner.

Sadie: How about a lollipop? (Note: The alleged “lollipop” was a sun-sweetened prune on a stick. FN 3)

Me: After dinner.

Sadie: Why?

Me: Because I am ovulating, which makes me feel bloated and exhausted and unattractive.

* * * * *


FN 1: I lied.  It was a Ginger Snap cookie from a giant bag.  Not organic, sugar-free, gluten-free, or free-trade.

FN 2: I lied.  She’s referring to a box of 40 popsicles I got at Target that are composed solely of sugar and caffeine. FN 4.

FN 3: I lied.  She’s referring to the Tootsie Pop that is sitting on the counter in our kitchen.

FN 4: That was a lie; I got them at Costco. I was just trying to look more diverse.


43 thoughts on “My Negotiation Skills Peak At Certain Times of the Month

  1. BWAH, HA, HA, HA! When I first started reading, I was like, well look at her being all healthy and organic. Thank GOD, you were lying! Phew. And seriously, don’t you feel like our children simply live to ask the same question over and over again hoping for a different result? By the way, last time I checked, that is also the definition of insanity, but I digress! 😉

  2. The essence of good negotiating with adults is to know when to remain quiet; with children, to talk faster than they do, and if a lie or two of ten gets tossed into the mix, the better the negotiation soup will taste.

    Sigh. I just had one of these “chats” with one or two or three of my kids last night.

  3. Oh thank God for the FNs. I was all feeling like crap that Beckett’s father (who just happens to be my husband but not when he does this kind of stuff) gave him a red sucker the other day, which he LOVED. The kid won’t eat any type of food, but took to the sugar and dye concoction like a fish to water.
    So I’m reading your post at first thinking that 1. I was the baddest Mommy around 2. that I didn’t see any of that extremely healthy stuff at Costco in Dallas and 3. why couldn’t she feed her that stuff before dinner since it wasn’t really a sweet anyway?
    So I’m glad I can go back to feeling like just a marginally bad mom now. Yay me! And yay you for holding your ground with the beautiful Sadie, bloated or not.

  4. I’m glad I’m not the only one out there who gives her children REAL cookies/pops. God’s honest sugar laden treats full of preservatives and fluorescent dyes and unpronounceable ingredients! I also have a very predictable shopping pattern between Costco, WalMart and Sobey’s (grocery store).

  5. I’m utterly impressed with you ability to hold it together long enough to even have that conversation…around here, the first “why not” is usually met with “because I said you can’t, and I’m the boss of you.” Add a “so there” if I’m bloated. 🙂

  6. Lizzie is 9 and still asks “can I be full” midway through dinner….which simply means “did I eat enough to get my treat?”. I always respond with “Are you full?”. That kid could live on sweets and never want for real food.

    Naturally your response was brilliant…when in doubt, baffle them. I probably would have sat across from her at the table and polished off the bag of cookies. As for all those questions…keep a stash of “shut-up candy” on hand.

  7. I’m so glad you were lying. I was beginning to think there was something seriously wrong with your little girl.

  8. Hilarious! I was so impressed with you. I was thinking you would love all the food here because we don’t have the middle aisles of preservatives of the grocery store! I wanted to know the brand of the quinoa cookies! Still smiling–sneaky girl.

    That dinner thing hasn’t ended here yet. I do put out a vegetable plate while I’m making dinner and it is seriously a saving grace!! They have something to munch on while I’m cooking and then I skip a vegetable with dinner and just serve a main dish.

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