Kiss My (Gl)Ass Ceiling: Volume 1

Welcome to the maiden voyage of this series featuring your stories about work.  I am psyched to kick this off with a great post today from someone who knows a thing or two about work.

Before I turn this space over to our guest poster, Cheryl Stober, remember that if you would like to submit a story about your work, send me an email ( and you too can use this space to do what you need to do (e.g., rag on your boss(es), vent about your co-worker who clips his toenails in the cubicle next to you, fret about the decisions you made as a big exec at Enron, whatever).

Happy Friday!

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My Work-At-Home Tuesdays by Cheryl Stober

In February 2011, I started to work from home every Tuesday. Here in Newton, MA, the elementary schools end their day on Tuesdays at 12:30 pm, and looking ahead to when Hannah would be attending religious school at 4 pm on those days, I started my work from home journey in anticipation of needing to fill that childcare gap. LinkedIn is doing a series of articles on “Big Idea 2013” highlighting the concepts we need to address in the coming year, and flexibility without shame is one of them.

(Go ahead, go click on that link. And click on the one in the article about “how even just 15
minutes a day of “hair and make-up” time adds up to more than one workweek a year. !!!” Yes, “!!!” is an appropriate response when you do the math on that and get to 60+ hours. But I digress.)

Obviously, working from home doesn’t work for everyone. We can’t bring our broken sinks to the plumber’s house. But for a lot of jobs now, working from home is a completely feasible way to work – if the powers that be can learn to accept it.

When I started at my current company, my back office job would have been very challenging to do
from home, especially since I needed physical signatures on documentation every day. But when I moved to the portfolio management side, I knew that things would be more flexible. However, when I asked if it would be acceptable for me to work from home on, for example, days when three year old Hannah might have a doctor’s appointment, I was told that I should still come in to the office. That was in 2007. The technology was already in place, but the attitudes weren’t there yet.

But then I had the issues with my back, where I couldn’t sit or stand without extreme pain, and I couldn’t get through a day at the office (believe me, I stupidly tried and did work from the floor of my cubicle). I managed to work from home throughout that ordeal, other than the surgery day itself, and proved that I was capable of doing so much remotely. So when I asked about working from home one day each week nearly a year later, it was instantly approved. It turned out others were doing the same thing – just no one was talking about it (at least not to me).

So for one day a week, I skip the commute. I get to take Max to school. Hannah used to have in-home piano lessons during that gap of time. Sometimes she and I go out to lunch and just talk. I move laundry through the machines. I’m home for the electrician to install the beautiful new light we just put in this week. And I WORK. I make phone calls, review RFPs, update slides and get back to clients. But the time I spend doing other things that help make my life work is probably less than the time some of my coworkers might spend discussing their latest fantasy football picks. And, I think it’s made it easier for some of my male coworkers to work from home on occasion

Working from home one day a week works for me. In return for the flexibility, my company gets a level of dedication from me that they wouldn’t get if I was constantly replacing babysitters to accommodate that afternoon childcare gap, or taking time off to meet the electrician. I hope it’s a concept more companies will be able to embrace, and without seeing it negatively, in the
year ahead.

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Cheryl Stober started her illustrious career as a religious school teacher’s aide while in 6th grade. She’s been a shouted-at camp counselor, a victim of check-kiting bank teller, an in-over-her-head non-profit intern, a part-time secretary and a college library check-out girl. She took a job that offered $1K more than the other offer she had back in 2000, and started exploring the world of finance and collateralized debt obligations. Now she’s a mother of two, living outside of Boston and a product analyst in a really niche-y field. When she finds a spare moment, she blogs at Busy Since Birth and is the creator of The Having It All Project.


12 thoughts on “Kiss My (Gl)Ass Ceiling: Volume 1

  1. Wonderful first guest post, thank you!

    I work from home regularly twice a week, and I love that it saves me on gas, tolls, time, and hair and makeup time. However, my daughter is home with us (husband is a stay at home dad), and that’s just no fun. She’s almost 3 and still has no concept of leaving me alone if I’m on a business call. The other day, I had to hide in the bathroom with my laptop while she screamed hysterically and banged on the door to get me out.

    I love spending more time with her this way, but I also wait for the day when it’s just me, my pajama pants, my computer, and my coffee, when she’s in school.

  2. I am a HUGE advocate of working from home. I did it for years at my old company – and what you say is true. I wasted much less time that everyone who was talking about their fantasy football picks around the water cooler because I was home working. I hope more companies catch on.

  3. I work from home 100% as a freelance advertising consultant, and it is definitely tricky. Thank God for email, as that is the main way I communicate with my clients. A kid can be screaming in the background, and no one has to know! But I remember an incident when my son was only 6 months old, and I had to put him in his crib, screaming, because a client insisted on having a phone conversation with me right at that minute. He was a man, of course. My female clients are much more flexible. But I wouldn’t trade working from home for anything.

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